Thursday, March 01, 2007
Is This The Right Guy For Me?
Dear Guidance Guy,
I think I love this guy. We were "together" twice. The first time we broke up because he was seeing this other girl. I don't think he really liked her, and she is kind of pushy. A week later they broke up, and I thought he was flirting with me again, but he felt really bad about not telling me about this other girl, so he didn't really want to ask me out again. That was last year.
He finally asked me again this year and we went out for two days less than a month. We broke up this time because his grades were dipping and his mom would not allow him to have a girl friend, but he still likes me. Now he is flirting with me again and I'm almost positive he wants to ask me out, but he hasn't yet. I was thinking about asking him, but Im kind of shy, plus my dad thinks he is a jerk since the first time we went out (I was supposed to go to the school carnival
with him, he didn't meet me where we were supposed to meet, I found him at the carnival with the other girl, and I came home crying.)
I didn't tell him about the second time we went out, and Im afraid to tell my dad that I want to ask him out now. What should I do? He and I have a lot in common, we both like writing, we both like animals, we even have the same birthday! I really like him. HELP!
Sincerely,
Lovesick and Confused
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Dear L. & C.
I think the answer to your question isn't so much in how you see this guy. I think it's more in how you see yourself.
It's not my job to tell you whether or not you should go out with this guy (assuming he wants to go out with you). What I see so far is a guy who has treated you poorly and has maturity issues. I also see parents - both his and yours - who are against the relationship for different reasons. This seems like a lot to get past.
The big question: are you someone who deserves a guy who treats you with respect? Should you have a boyfriend you can laugh with, snuggle with and trust? If the answer is "maybe" I wouldn't recommend going out with anyone yet. You'll attract people you don't want in your life.
If the answer is, "yes, I deserve a good, fun exciting guy" then ask yourself if he's the one. If he is and you're willing to go through all the difficulties you'll have, then give it a shot.
Best Of Luck,
The Guidance Guy
I think I love this guy. We were "together" twice. The first time we broke up because he was seeing this other girl. I don't think he really liked her, and she is kind of pushy. A week later they broke up, and I thought he was flirting with me again, but he felt really bad about not telling me about this other girl, so he didn't really want to ask me out again. That was last year.
He finally asked me again this year and we went out for two days less than a month. We broke up this time because his grades were dipping and his mom would not allow him to have a girl friend, but he still likes me. Now he is flirting with me again and I'm almost positive he wants to ask me out, but he hasn't yet. I was thinking about asking him, but Im kind of shy, plus my dad thinks he is a jerk since the first time we went out (I was supposed to go to the school carnival
with him, he didn't meet me where we were supposed to meet, I found him at the carnival with the other girl, and I came home crying.)
I didn't tell him about the second time we went out, and Im afraid to tell my dad that I want to ask him out now. What should I do? He and I have a lot in common, we both like writing, we both like animals, we even have the same birthday! I really like him. HELP!
Sincerely,
Lovesick and Confused
*** *** ***
Dear L. & C.
I think the answer to your question isn't so much in how you see this guy. I think it's more in how you see yourself.
It's not my job to tell you whether or not you should go out with this guy (assuming he wants to go out with you). What I see so far is a guy who has treated you poorly and has maturity issues. I also see parents - both his and yours - who are against the relationship for different reasons. This seems like a lot to get past.
The big question: are you someone who deserves a guy who treats you with respect? Should you have a boyfriend you can laugh with, snuggle with and trust? If the answer is "maybe" I wouldn't recommend going out with anyone yet. You'll attract people you don't want in your life.
If the answer is, "yes, I deserve a good, fun exciting guy" then ask yourself if he's the one. If he is and you're willing to go through all the difficulties you'll have, then give it a shot.
Best Of Luck,
The Guidance Guy
# posted by Larry Hochman : 3:18 PM
