Wednesday, January 31, 2007
Valentine's Day and a Teacher Present
Dear Guidance Guy,
Valentine's Day is not too long from now and our school is going to be selling candy grams. I really want to buy one for my crush, but I'm not sure if he knows I have a crush on him or not. Do you think I should put my name on it or write "From Your Secret Admirer"? The problem is that my crush is a teacher at my school. He might know, and if I put "secret admirer" what happens if he figures it out? But I do hope that he will find out I have a crush on him.
This question has been on my shoulders for a long time. People have told me different things so I want to get your opinion on it.
Thanks,
Alyssa
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Dear Alyssa,
My guess is that if you send your teacher a "secret admirer" candy gram he will know it's from you. Something tells me you're acting in ways that let him know you have a crush on him. It will probably be easy for him to figure out who it's from.
If you want to express to your teacher how much you like him, you can send him the candy gram without the "secret admirer" note. You can write him something nice about what a great guy he is, and sign your name to it. This way he knows how you feel (without worrying about the romantic parts) and you finally get this off your shoulders. It's fun to have crushes on teachers. As a teacher/counselor, I like them! Just as long as they don't get too intense or spooky. Have fun with this, and let your teacher have fun also.
All The Best,
The Guidance Guy
Valentine's Day is not too long from now and our school is going to be selling candy grams. I really want to buy one for my crush, but I'm not sure if he knows I have a crush on him or not. Do you think I should put my name on it or write "From Your Secret Admirer"? The problem is that my crush is a teacher at my school. He might know, and if I put "secret admirer" what happens if he figures it out? But I do hope that he will find out I have a crush on him.
This question has been on my shoulders for a long time. People have told me different things so I want to get your opinion on it.
Thanks,
Alyssa
*** *** ***
Dear Alyssa,
My guess is that if you send your teacher a "secret admirer" candy gram he will know it's from you. Something tells me you're acting in ways that let him know you have a crush on him. It will probably be easy for him to figure out who it's from.
If you want to express to your teacher how much you like him, you can send him the candy gram without the "secret admirer" note. You can write him something nice about what a great guy he is, and sign your name to it. This way he knows how you feel (without worrying about the romantic parts) and you finally get this off your shoulders. It's fun to have crushes on teachers. As a teacher/counselor, I like them! Just as long as they don't get too intense or spooky. Have fun with this, and let your teacher have fun also.
All The Best,
The Guidance Guy
# posted by Larry Hochman : 4:03 PM
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I have to comment on this...I think the advice you gave this young lady was completely irresponsible. As a counselor myself, and a female, I've had many experiences with teacher crushes. While it's fine and dandy to have a crush on a teacher who may be 20 years older than you, it's completely inappropriate to act upon those feelings. To tell this girl that she should go ahead and send her teacher a valentine boggles my mind. How can you, "Guidance Guy", give such advice? In this day and age where sexual harrassment is at it's peak, you telling this girl to "have some fun" and express her feeling for her teacher makes me seriously question your credibility. I am disgusted.
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