Wednesday, January 03, 2007
Bullied By A Group Of Girls
Dear Guidance Guy,
There are this group of girls that have been picking on me since last year and they will not stop. All they ever do is try to make my life miserable and make everyone else do the same thing to me. The thing is though is that I have never done anything to desirve this. I have always minded my own business and then all this started to happen. I just always try to ignore them but nothing seems to ever work. It seems like there goal is to turn everyone against me and make everyone follow along with them and take all my friends away.
It seems to be working. Now no one wants to be seen with me anymore and just ditch me just to be popular with them. It all started with just one girl making fun of me, then everyone followed along. I have no idea how to make any of this stop and to stand up to them because I just think that it may make things worse.
So what I'm trying to ask is how can i approach them without making a fool of myself and to make them see that I just want them to stop. So what should i do?
Ashley
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Dear Ashley,
There are certain groups of kids who can be very mean. They find one kid who seems like an easy target, then zoom in on them. The behavior you are describing is that of bullies.
The short-term answer is to go to a principal, assistant principal or guidance counselor for help. I don't see too many ways for you to handle this on your own. Let one of these adults know exactly what's happening. Include details of who, what when and where. What will probably happen is they will conduct a mediation between you and them. The rules will be set, and there will be consequences for breaking them.
The long-term answer is more self-confidence on your part. I'm sure you're a great kid, but something caused these girls to gang up on you. Most kids who are bullied don't do anything wrong, but send out signals of not being sure of themselves. Again, you did NOT do anything wrong. But someone who feels good about themselves usually doesn't get picked on. Think about all the good things about yourself (I'm sure there are many) and keep them in the front of your mind. You will send off an attitude that says, "I'm great and I deserve respect." The other kids will respond.
Best of Luck,
The Guidance Guy
There are this group of girls that have been picking on me since last year and they will not stop. All they ever do is try to make my life miserable and make everyone else do the same thing to me. The thing is though is that I have never done anything to desirve this. I have always minded my own business and then all this started to happen. I just always try to ignore them but nothing seems to ever work. It seems like there goal is to turn everyone against me and make everyone follow along with them and take all my friends away.
It seems to be working. Now no one wants to be seen with me anymore and just ditch me just to be popular with them. It all started with just one girl making fun of me, then everyone followed along. I have no idea how to make any of this stop and to stand up to them because I just think that it may make things worse.
So what I'm trying to ask is how can i approach them without making a fool of myself and to make them see that I just want them to stop. So what should i do?
Ashley
*** *** ***
Dear Ashley,
There are certain groups of kids who can be very mean. They find one kid who seems like an easy target, then zoom in on them. The behavior you are describing is that of bullies.
The short-term answer is to go to a principal, assistant principal or guidance counselor for help. I don't see too many ways for you to handle this on your own. Let one of these adults know exactly what's happening. Include details of who, what when and where. What will probably happen is they will conduct a mediation between you and them. The rules will be set, and there will be consequences for breaking them.
The long-term answer is more self-confidence on your part. I'm sure you're a great kid, but something caused these girls to gang up on you. Most kids who are bullied don't do anything wrong, but send out signals of not being sure of themselves. Again, you did NOT do anything wrong. But someone who feels good about themselves usually doesn't get picked on. Think about all the good things about yourself (I'm sure there are many) and keep them in the front of your mind. You will send off an attitude that says, "I'm great and I deserve respect." The other kids will respond.
Best of Luck,
The Guidance Guy
# posted by Larry Hochman : 12:53 PM
