Tuesday, December 26, 2006
Too Nervous To Ask Him To The Dance
Dear Guidance Guy,
There is a guy I like in school. He is popular, a little immature and good at music. But I'm not any of those qualities. I have told him that I liked him but now I'm too nervous to ask him to the dance. Also, when I'm around him I get really shy and can't act like myself. I don't know how to act like myself around him.
Please help me. How do I ask him, and how do I act more like myself?
Purple Princess
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Dear Purple Princess,
The easiest way to be yourself is to take all this pressure off. What are you like when you aren't around him? You're probably amazing, because you aren't worried about what he'll think of you. Wouldn't it be great to be that free and act like yourself when he IS around?
Here's one idea: decide you aren't going to talk with him, or ask him out. Now all the pressure is off, because there isn't anything you're worried about. You can say hello to him, or talk about something else. But you know you won't have that terrified moment when you're asking him to the dance.
Now, here's the great part...if he sees you the way you really are, instead of a nervous young woman, he'll probably be more interested. He may even ask YOU out to the dance. Of course, he may not also. But that would be his loss. You can still go with your friends and have a great time. Maybe you'll even see him there!
Dances are supposed to be fun, not terrible events that make you nervous asking people. This may or may not be the time you go with this popular, immature, good at music guy. But it can be the time you get to hang out with a great person: yourself.
Have Fun!
The Guidance Guy
There is a guy I like in school. He is popular, a little immature and good at music. But I'm not any of those qualities. I have told him that I liked him but now I'm too nervous to ask him to the dance. Also, when I'm around him I get really shy and can't act like myself. I don't know how to act like myself around him.
Please help me. How do I ask him, and how do I act more like myself?
Purple Princess
*** *** ***
Dear Purple Princess,
The easiest way to be yourself is to take all this pressure off. What are you like when you aren't around him? You're probably amazing, because you aren't worried about what he'll think of you. Wouldn't it be great to be that free and act like yourself when he IS around?
Here's one idea: decide you aren't going to talk with him, or ask him out. Now all the pressure is off, because there isn't anything you're worried about. You can say hello to him, or talk about something else. But you know you won't have that terrified moment when you're asking him to the dance.
Now, here's the great part...if he sees you the way you really are, instead of a nervous young woman, he'll probably be more interested. He may even ask YOU out to the dance. Of course, he may not also. But that would be his loss. You can still go with your friends and have a great time. Maybe you'll even see him there!
Dances are supposed to be fun, not terrible events that make you nervous asking people. This may or may not be the time you go with this popular, immature, good at music guy. But it can be the time you get to hang out with a great person: yourself.
Have Fun!
The Guidance Guy
# posted by Larry Hochman : 7:30 AM
