The Guidance Guy Advice Column

Dear Guidance Guy,

My friends are all popular but I feel as if I am not. I am worrying about what I should wear and what I should do. I really like them as my friends and I don't want to lose one of my friend's friendship again. What should I do.

Sincerely,
Popularity Trouble

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Dear Popularity Trouble,

Let's keep this as simple as possible. What you should do is be yourself. You should wear what you like and do what you want to do. If your friends decide to dump you because you're not wearing the right clothes or doing what they think is the right thing, they weren't real friends to start with. If you did the things they wanted instead of what you wanted, you'd have a group to hang out with. But you would resent them because you gave up your choices in order to be popular. Not a good way to keep a friendship!

Real friends let you be who you are, just as you would do for them. And if these people aren't true friends, someone out there will be.

Best of Luck,
The Guidance Guy