Sunday, December 10, 2006
A Matter Of Trust
Dear Guidance Guy,
I'm in a tough spot here. My boyfriend told me he was in a serious car accident which required hospitalization. Basically, he in a car when another car rammed into him, piercing his stomach. He said the doctors were skeptical he would make it. The only things that are bugging me is that if his stomache pierced through wouldn't he have
required longer then 5-6 days in the hospital especially for a stomach wound? And if there was a car accident wouldn't there have been at least one newspaper article? When I searched for articles I couldn't find one at all. I think he's lying to me, but I don't know.
Also my mom is saying it's awfully convenient he has this "car accident" around the time he was supposed to come see me, and she says he's playing games. I'm 17 and I should know this but I don't. My best friend and I, well she was the one who introduced us. About two days ago she and I were being called sluts and whores on an online gaming site we go to quite regularly, and one of the administrators on this site told her that the person was verbally attacking us, his IP address was the last IP address my boyfriend used. So now she and I are both very confused, especially me ,and we are thinking that he may be a different person from what he told us.
I don't what to do. Everyone is telling me to break up with him. And my friend is just as confused. Maybe you can help on what I should do, and what me and my best friend can do.
A.
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Dear A.
I don't see any trust, which is the starting point for any good relationship. If you're still interested in being with your boyfriend, you can put everything out in the open. Tell him about the matching IP addresses. And ask him specifically when and where he was injured. If he doesn't have the answers you want, you can decide what your next move is.
But that doesn't seem to be the real issue. The real issue is that you seem to be losing your self-respect as part of this relationship. From my point of view, it looks like he's having a lot of fun at your expense. Not only will this destroy the relationship you already have, it sets a bad pattern about what you will accept from future boyfriends, and even husbands.
Whatever you do, make sure you're in a relationship where you are treated with respect, consideration and honesty. If your instincts are telling you something isn't right, trust them!
All The Best,
The Guidance Guy
I'm in a tough spot here. My boyfriend told me he was in a serious car accident which required hospitalization. Basically, he in a car when another car rammed into him, piercing his stomach. He said the doctors were skeptical he would make it. The only things that are bugging me is that if his stomache pierced through wouldn't he have
required longer then 5-6 days in the hospital especially for a stomach wound? And if there was a car accident wouldn't there have been at least one newspaper article? When I searched for articles I couldn't find one at all. I think he's lying to me, but I don't know.
Also my mom is saying it's awfully convenient he has this "car accident" around the time he was supposed to come see me, and she says he's playing games. I'm 17 and I should know this but I don't. My best friend and I, well she was the one who introduced us. About two days ago she and I were being called sluts and whores on an online gaming site we go to quite regularly, and one of the administrators on this site told her that the person was verbally attacking us, his IP address was the last IP address my boyfriend used. So now she and I are both very confused, especially me ,and we are thinking that he may be a different person from what he told us.
I don't what to do. Everyone is telling me to break up with him. And my friend is just as confused. Maybe you can help on what I should do, and what me and my best friend can do.
A.
*** *** ***
Dear A.
I don't see any trust, which is the starting point for any good relationship. If you're still interested in being with your boyfriend, you can put everything out in the open. Tell him about the matching IP addresses. And ask him specifically when and where he was injured. If he doesn't have the answers you want, you can decide what your next move is.
But that doesn't seem to be the real issue. The real issue is that you seem to be losing your self-respect as part of this relationship. From my point of view, it looks like he's having a lot of fun at your expense. Not only will this destroy the relationship you already have, it sets a bad pattern about what you will accept from future boyfriends, and even husbands.
Whatever you do, make sure you're in a relationship where you are treated with respect, consideration and honesty. If your instincts are telling you something isn't right, trust them!
All The Best,
The Guidance Guy
# posted by Larry Hochman : 8:02 AM
