Thursday, November 23, 2006
Major Crush On Teacher (Love?)
Hi Guidance Guy,
I am in a really hard position. I have a major crush on a teacher at my school. I am in grade 7 and this teacher teaches grade 8. He is like the world to me. He is like the light of my life and he is also really cute. I am head over heels for him. I am really scared that he might be leaving soon and I am not sure if I will every see him again. I have done some friendly flirting with him and always stop just to say hi. He gets me really excited and I just really want him to know that I care for him and have really strong feels for him.
But I am pretty sure that he is aware that I have a crush on him. Since I am not too good at keeping that a secret some people have told me to never tell him and others have said you probably will never see him again so I should tell him. I am leaning towards telling because if I don't I will regret it and I really love this man. He is like the world to me. When I don't see him I feel a part of my heart is missing and when I don't get to say hi to him which rarely ever happens I feel miserable.
Confused
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Dear Confused,
If this teacher has any kind of clue at all, he knows how you feel about him. I'm sure he can see it in your eyes and in the way you smile and flirt with him. So if you want to tell him to make sure he knows, don't worry. I'd be very surprised if he didn't know.
The one strong reason I'd give you not to tell him (and this is your choice) is that he would have to tell you he doesn't feel the same way. I was glad to see in your letter you're not expecting anything will come of this. Of course you know that as a 12 or 13 year old it would be impossible to have that kind of relationship with any adult, much less a teacher.
But I'm sure your feelings are real, and beautfiul. Don't be ashamed of them. If you need to tell him because you feel like you're going to burst, I'd do it in a way that won't get you hurt. Put it in a way that he won't have to respond directly to, like a note. And be VERY careful about what you say if you decide to do this. Tell him you think he's a great guy, and that you feel good when you're around him, or something else very nice. Do NOT say you think of him romantically, or both of you can get in trouble (especially him). Even better, write notes to him that no one else (and I mean NO ONE) ever sees. Destroy them after they are written.
I am sure when you're older and ready for an adult relationship, you're going to be very good at it. Someone will be very lucky to have you as their partner.
All The Best,
The Guidance Guy
I am in a really hard position. I have a major crush on a teacher at my school. I am in grade 7 and this teacher teaches grade 8. He is like the world to me. He is like the light of my life and he is also really cute. I am head over heels for him. I am really scared that he might be leaving soon and I am not sure if I will every see him again. I have done some friendly flirting with him and always stop just to say hi. He gets me really excited and I just really want him to know that I care for him and have really strong feels for him.
But I am pretty sure that he is aware that I have a crush on him. Since I am not too good at keeping that a secret some people have told me to never tell him and others have said you probably will never see him again so I should tell him. I am leaning towards telling because if I don't I will regret it and I really love this man. He is like the world to me. When I don't see him I feel a part of my heart is missing and when I don't get to say hi to him which rarely ever happens I feel miserable.
Confused
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Dear Confused,
If this teacher has any kind of clue at all, he knows how you feel about him. I'm sure he can see it in your eyes and in the way you smile and flirt with him. So if you want to tell him to make sure he knows, don't worry. I'd be very surprised if he didn't know.
The one strong reason I'd give you not to tell him (and this is your choice) is that he would have to tell you he doesn't feel the same way. I was glad to see in your letter you're not expecting anything will come of this. Of course you know that as a 12 or 13 year old it would be impossible to have that kind of relationship with any adult, much less a teacher.
But I'm sure your feelings are real, and beautfiul. Don't be ashamed of them. If you need to tell him because you feel like you're going to burst, I'd do it in a way that won't get you hurt. Put it in a way that he won't have to respond directly to, like a note. And be VERY careful about what you say if you decide to do this. Tell him you think he's a great guy, and that you feel good when you're around him, or something else very nice. Do NOT say you think of him romantically, or both of you can get in trouble (especially him). Even better, write notes to him that no one else (and I mean NO ONE) ever sees. Destroy them after they are written.
I am sure when you're older and ready for an adult relationship, you're going to be very good at it. Someone will be very lucky to have you as their partner.
All The Best,
The Guidance Guy
# posted by Larry Hochman : 8:24 AM
