Monday, November 20, 2006
Cut From The Basketball Team
Dear Guidance Guy,
My son recently got cut from the basketball team from high school. He is a senior and has played three years of high school. Altogether he has played eight years of basketball.The reason the coach gave us was Jacob had
not improved enough. Mind you he was a starter at one point. Jacob has been sick. He was diagnosed with Crohn's disease and he had lost 40 pounds. He still gave 100%.
This is the one thing my son loves best, and the coach took that from him. He had told Jacob it was because he didn't
go to basketball camp and then asked how his health was. When my husband and I met with him he lied to us, telling us he told Jacob he had skill but he didn't go to ball camp, while he kept several who didn't go to camp. It was not a
mandatory thing.
My son is a good boy. He gets good grades and he loved his basketball team. Now in his last year - the most important year - look what they did to him. I want my point to get across to everyone.
Upset Parent
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Dear Upset,
I deleted the name of the coach and the high school from your letter because this is not the forum to complain about an individual school or teacher. If you want to do that, go to Rate My Teachers' main section and post a comment about him.
I can understand your frustration about this situation and I'm sorry to see your son is ill. I couldn't help thinking that if your son lost 40 pounds, it must have taken a lot of energy out of him. Unlike a classroom situation, a basketball team is very competitive. A coach is looking for the 12 best players to suit up. Whether it was something your son was responsible for or not, if he wasn't one of the best, the coach needs to do what's best for the team. Maybe he wasn't completely up front with you, but it seems like your son might not have been ready to give his all to the team.
I wonder if there's a way he can still participate, even if he doesn't play. If he loves his team, maybe being a manager or assistant of some kind would be something he can do. There's a lesson to be learned here. If he (and you) can set aside anger and hurt feelings, maybe something good can come out of this situation after all.
All The Best,
The Guidance Guy
My son recently got cut from the basketball team from high school. He is a senior and has played three years of high school. Altogether he has played eight years of basketball.The reason the coach gave us was Jacob had
not improved enough. Mind you he was a starter at one point. Jacob has been sick. He was diagnosed with Crohn's disease and he had lost 40 pounds. He still gave 100%.
This is the one thing my son loves best, and the coach took that from him. He had told Jacob it was because he didn't
go to basketball camp and then asked how his health was. When my husband and I met with him he lied to us, telling us he told Jacob he had skill but he didn't go to ball camp, while he kept several who didn't go to camp. It was not a
mandatory thing.
My son is a good boy. He gets good grades and he loved his basketball team. Now in his last year - the most important year - look what they did to him. I want my point to get across to everyone.
Upset Parent
*** *** ***
Dear Upset,
I deleted the name of the coach and the high school from your letter because this is not the forum to complain about an individual school or teacher. If you want to do that, go to Rate My Teachers' main section and post a comment about him.
I can understand your frustration about this situation and I'm sorry to see your son is ill. I couldn't help thinking that if your son lost 40 pounds, it must have taken a lot of energy out of him. Unlike a classroom situation, a basketball team is very competitive. A coach is looking for the 12 best players to suit up. Whether it was something your son was responsible for or not, if he wasn't one of the best, the coach needs to do what's best for the team. Maybe he wasn't completely up front with you, but it seems like your son might not have been ready to give his all to the team.
I wonder if there's a way he can still participate, even if he doesn't play. If he loves his team, maybe being a manager or assistant of some kind would be something he can do. There's a lesson to be learned here. If he (and you) can set aside anger and hurt feelings, maybe something good can come out of this situation after all.
All The Best,
The Guidance Guy
# posted by Larry Hochman : 1:34 PM
