Friday, October 20, 2006
Is This A Crush, Or More?
Dear Guidance Guy,
I really really really like this teacher. I liked him before this year (I've always liked him) and I hoped that maybe after having him as a teacher this year, the feelings might go away. I can't really tell if it's just a crush or if I really like him. He's twice my age (but he isn't old, by any account) and I have no idea why I like him and I can't seem to stop liking him. I think I act weird around him because I like him and he probably thinks I'm weird because of the way I act around him. I just want to be able to go and have a normal conversation with him without freaking out and getting massive butterflies.
I've had maybe one or two crushes on other teachers before but they never lasted more than a month or so and I've never felt......I don't know....this much before. Is it possible that I really do like him and its not just a crush?But, in my defense, he is really hot. I hope I'm not the only one that thinks that.I need some help here!!Confuzzled
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Dear Confuzzled,
The line between having a crush and really liking someone gets kind of blurry as you get older and your emotions become more mature. I'm glad all you're looking for is a "normal conversation" with him, because anything else is going to leave you disappointed.
If all you want to know is if this is a crush or liking him, I wouldn't worry about it. You didn't use the other "L" word, so I'll put it out there. You may have such strong feelings for him that it can be called love. And that's OK. Most teachers can tell when a student (of either sex) feels strongly towards them. As long as the attention isn't too much or interferes with their personal life, they usually appreciate it. I'm guessing your teacher knows you feel good about him and isn't trying to decide if it's a crush or more.
If he's a nice guy (and others think he's hot) you won't be the first student to feel this way. Kids like teachers who are good listeners and good looking at the same time. So he's probably used to this. Relax and just be yourself. This isn't going anywhere and you have nothing to be embarrassed about. Enjoy the warm feelings while they last.
Hope That Helps,
The Guidance Guy
I really really really like this teacher. I liked him before this year (I've always liked him) and I hoped that maybe after having him as a teacher this year, the feelings might go away. I can't really tell if it's just a crush or if I really like him. He's twice my age (but he isn't old, by any account) and I have no idea why I like him and I can't seem to stop liking him. I think I act weird around him because I like him and he probably thinks I'm weird because of the way I act around him. I just want to be able to go and have a normal conversation with him without freaking out and getting massive butterflies.
I've had maybe one or two crushes on other teachers before but they never lasted more than a month or so and I've never felt......I don't know....this much before. Is it possible that I really do like him and its not just a crush?But, in my defense, he is really hot. I hope I'm not the only one that thinks that.I need some help here!!Confuzzled
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Dear Confuzzled,
The line between having a crush and really liking someone gets kind of blurry as you get older and your emotions become more mature. I'm glad all you're looking for is a "normal conversation" with him, because anything else is going to leave you disappointed.
If all you want to know is if this is a crush or liking him, I wouldn't worry about it. You didn't use the other "L" word, so I'll put it out there. You may have such strong feelings for him that it can be called love. And that's OK. Most teachers can tell when a student (of either sex) feels strongly towards them. As long as the attention isn't too much or interferes with their personal life, they usually appreciate it. I'm guessing your teacher knows you feel good about him and isn't trying to decide if it's a crush or more.
If he's a nice guy (and others think he's hot) you won't be the first student to feel this way. Kids like teachers who are good listeners and good looking at the same time. So he's probably used to this. Relax and just be yourself. This isn't going anywhere and you have nothing to be embarrassed about. Enjoy the warm feelings while they last.
Hope That Helps,
The Guidance Guy
# posted by Larry Hochman : 2:05 PM
